by Dr. Holly Battey | July 2, 2015
I recently met a handsome man at a networking event looking for the One. He was in his 30s and complained that the women he dates don't want anything serious. (They jet a couple months after meeting.) Trendily dressed, he resembles more of a player in his 20s than a secure man looking to land a wife.
In business, it's recommended that if you want to be a manager, start looking and acting like one. Love is no different. If you want to be a wife or husband start looking and acting like one. Assume the position. Start now...even if you're not dating. Dress the part. How we present ourselves to the world says a lot about us. What does your image say about you? Much as we don't want to be judged by our appearance, we all pick up cues about others visually. It's human nature. How you look informs others about you. If you dress club chic, don't expect the marriage-minded to stick around. If you lead with financial extravagance, don't be surprised if you magnetize those who value materialism. For women, if you show a lot of skin don't be surprised if you attract those with one track minds. Dress age appropriate and be mindful about what image you're projecting. Finding wardrobe, hair, and make-up that flatters can be a major game-changer. Do it. Invest in yourself. How you look affects how you feel. And how you feel affects the energy you put into the Universe. And the energy you exude, directly affects your love life.
And if you're already in a relationship and want to get to the next level, act like the spouse you hope to be. If you already are, yet aren't getting the commitment you desire after 1-2 years, require it.
Get your ideal life together. If you wish to wed, stop wasting time with non-spousal material. Conduct your life in such a way that others see you as husband/wife material. If you want a fit mate, get fit. If you seek a financially secure mate, become one. Become what you seek. The results will amaze you.