by Dr. Holly Battey | December 14, 2015
Holiday dating can be an emotional roller coaster. We typically reserve this precious time for our nearest and dearest. So it can be nerve-racking, trying to discern how important we are to a new suitor and how important they are to us. Should I get him a gift? Do I invite her to my holiday party? Is he going to book me for NYE? And in the interim, should I hold out for what I really hope will happen, risking ringing in the new year solo, or devise a plan B, rendering me unavailable to the new man in my life? Here's what you need to know about holiday dating:
The holidays can be extremely revealing about your budding relationship. In fact, 3 holidays tell you exactly where you stand romantically. They are NYE, Valentine's Day, and birthdays (yours and theirs). These occasions are universally reserved for romance and we spend them with our most cherished.
It is critical to qualify the One, but just as essential is to assess if you are your suitor's One. The holidays are the perfect time to deduce this. If you're blessed enough to find your suitor by your side on these romantic occasions, you can exhale because you're #1 in their life. Conversely, here's the hard truth: If you aren't with your smitten on these romantic holidays, you aren't their One. Even if they meet all of your partner criteria, you deserve to be treated and regarded as the One. Compromising on this alone is settling for less than you deserve. Their presence or absence on these specific occasions is definitive and tells you everything you need to know about how they think and feel about you. Be honest with yourself about what's showing up romantically in your life.
And promise me this... Don't stop searching until you find your One who thinks you're the One!
Warmest holiday wishes to you and yours! XO Dr. Holly