I think we can agree that breakups bite. In my coaching work I've come across men & women who stay in unhealthy relationships to avoid racking up another 'failed romance.' Yet remaining in an unfulfilling relationship is unhealthy for both parties. How you think about the breakup matters.
So here's the good news.
There's no such thing as a failed relationship IF you take the lesson.
If you've given your best to it and it's still not working, let it go. And then begin the essential task of processing it. Journal, speak with a friend, meditate, hire a professional, create, exercise regularly. The risk of the unexamined relationship is that you are doomed to repeat it because you haven't changed. You have no new insights to apply to the next one. And this is how unhealthy patterns perpetuate. Look at your stuff. It's there for a reason. We are here to evolve. And it’s rarely just one person’s fault. It’s not always fun or pretty, but it's so necessary. And once you've done the work and can get to a place of being genuinely grateful for the experience (no matter how negative), you trade bitterness or guilt for the wisdom and emotional freedom found from gaining understanding. And in so doing, become incredibly attractive to suitors, as there's nothing sexier than when someone owns their past because they're committed to creating a different future.
Time is our most valuable asset. Should you have unresolved feelings about the past or present, harness the power of this moment and do something different to expedite the love life you've always imagined.