Over the weekend, I saw the movie "Hector and the Search for Happiness." It's an enjoyable film about a psychiatrist who embarks on a worldwide adventure to find the secret to happiness. Before taking off, Hector asks his girlfriend, "What word describes our relationship?" She answers, "tidy...and uncomplicated."
Yep. Tidy and uncomplicated.
Personally, 'tidy and uncomplicated' would send me running for the hills. Not that tidy's a bad thing, but tidy to sum up an entire relationship? Nope, not for me. Not near juicy enough...
We are all individuals with unique relationship desires. Sometimes our partner's a good fit, but the relationship we've created isn't. Here are a few questions to align your relationship (or next one) to your desired:
- Which one word captures the essence of your relationship (or last relationship)? Is it your ideal? If not, which word would be?
- And which word does your partner choose to describe your relationship? Is this their ideal? If not, what is?
- If you and your partner's words equate to your ideal, continue doing the very things that got you there. If not, what would have to happen for you and your mate to create your shared ideal?