by Dr. Holly Battey | January 31, 2016

My ex recently married.  Quite possibly my first ex who married after we dated.  When we met many years ago, I had ended a relationship with a man who wasn't good to me.  In contrast, the newly nuptialed treated me very well.  He was a good man with a heart of gold and a soul to match.  I knew it then like I know it now.  I stayed with him because of his goodness which meant the world to me after my prior relationship.  But just because he was a good man and was good to me didn't mean he was right for me.  We had wonderful times and were deeply connected despite compatibility issues.  We tried many times to make something that we wanted to work work, but it just didn't.  And now I know why.  It wasn't meant to be.  We weren't right for each other.  And I know this because I've never seen him this happy.  To see someone you love at full happy capacity, when you haven't seen this prior, assures me that the right thing happened.  Knowing he is this happy with his new wife warms my heart.  I am so content that we freed each other up to find our soul mates.  Because there's nothing as gratifying as seeing someone you love have the love they so deeply deserve.

When it's meant to be your partner brings out the best in you.  You like who you are when you're with them and they make you a better person.  They make you feel the way you want to feel.  They are good to you and right for you.  And you no longer wonder if it's meant to be, because you know deep down that it is.  Many of these things just are.  You can't try to change or alter them and you shouldn't try.  And it's no one's fault if these qualities aren't in place.  But it is diagnostic.  Many try to will their partners into making them feel the way they want to feel and wish they brought out their best, but you can't force what nature didn't intend.  When one feels both light and alive by the deep compatibility of a soulmate, you know you're meant to be.

AuthorDr. Holly Battey